I have found after a year of internet dating on several different sites that people are just playing and not serious. The first clue there is not a relationship as the goal in mind is when they are long distance. I have made very good friends this way but have yet to meet any of them in person. The local or close in proximity people say hello but don't really want to delve any deeper in conversation. I just want to meet someone who really wants to meet someone, is that too much to ask? Dawn
I have found after a year of internet dating on several different sites that people are just playing and not serious. The first clue there is not a relationship as the goal in mind is when they are long distance. I have made very good friends this way but have yet to meet any of them in person. The local or close in proximity people say hello but don't really want to delve any deeper in conversation. I just want to meet someone who really wants to meet someone, is that too much to ask? Dawn
Yes,There are those of us actually looking for someone. For the last month I've been dating a woman that I met on this site. I cooked a killer dinner for her on Tuesday night and we decided to hide our profiles on Wed. We'll see where things lead, but so far it's promising.
Update to this post. It's bee four years since we met on interracialmatch. We just celebrated our third anniversary.
Yes,There are those of us actually looking for someone. For the last month I've been dating a woman that I met on this site. I cooked a killer dinner for her on Tuesday night and we decided to hide our profiles on Wed. We'll see where things lead, but so far it's promising.
Update to this post. It's bee four years since we met on interracialmatch. We just celebrated our third anniversary.
Nothing is an exact science meeting some from work could go just as bad, if on line dating has given you lemons then make lemonade, if does it again make lemon pie etc.When do you stop? I guess when you lose the taste for lemons or your lips are to puckered :)
Lc4u It's hard to believe that with your beautiful smile you're having difficulty...You can try library, museum, art shows well maybe not art shows lol
Nothing is an exact science meeting some from work could go just as bad, if on line dating has given you lemons then make lemonade, if does it again make lemon pie etc.When do you stop? I guess when you lose the taste for lemons or your lips are to puckered :)
Lc4u It's hard to believe that with your beautiful smile you're having difficulty...You can try library, museum, art shows well maybe not art shows lol
Hello ladies - this is a first for me but what you have written hit so close to home for me I had to respond. I went on line to try it out & found the same thing. On line dating is used either as database where physical criteria are input & only names output are pursued or there are mass emails. The desire to really get to meet/know the other person seems to be lacking. Even when you meet if its not head over heals immediately then there are no subsequent meetings. (Maybe I am just naive and it's the physical that they are looking for) I have gone back to the "old fashioned way" of meeting people and the difference is interesting. I have to chuckle because in person it's the 20-30 year olds that approach me but on line its the 50-60 year olds.
Hello ladies - this is a first for me but what you have written hit so close to home for me I had to respond. I went on line to try it out & found the same thing. On line dating is used either as database where physical criteria are input & only names output are pursued or there are mass emails. The desire to really get to meet/know the other person seems to be lacking. Even when you meet if its not head over heals immediately then there are no subsequent meetings. (Maybe I am just naive and it's the physical that they are looking for) I have gone back to the "old fashioned way" of meeting people and the difference is interesting. I have to chuckle because in person it's the 20-30 year olds that approach me but on line its the 50-60 year olds.
Some people are very serious online. I started doing this a year ago. One of the first persons I started chatting with just married someone she met online. She lived in Canada and he lived in Arizona where they now both live. I am not wealthy but I flew from the east coast to the west to meet someone I had been chatting with for 5 months. Even though we talked on the phone all the time (for as long as 7 hours at a time) things did not work out. A few months ago I met someone from Italy. She flew from Italy to DC to meet someone else but ended up staying with me for 3 weeks. It is a long story that would make an interesting episode of Jerry Springer. The italian woman and I got along well enough and made plans for her to come back just to visit me but I met someone else and told her not to come. Although a lot of people are not serious some are very serious.
Some people are very serious online. I started doing this a year ago. One of the first persons I started chatting with just married someone she met online. She lived in Canada and he lived in Arizona where they now both live. I am not wealthy but I flew from the east coast to the west to meet someone I had been chatting with for 5 months. Even though we talked on the phone all the time (for as long as 7 hours at a time) things did not work out. A few months ago I met someone from Italy. She flew from Italy to DC to meet someone else but ended up staying with me for 3 weeks. It is a long story that would make an interesting episode of Jerry Springer. The italian woman and I got along well enough and made plans for her to come back just to visit me but I met someone else and told her not to come. Although a lot of people are not serious some are very serious.
I agree with you DM. I've received lots of winks and maybe phone calls but it seems like boys night out only. Distance doesnt matter to me because I feel that can work if the right person comes along. As for men close to me, forget it. All they seem to do it talk and say nothing. I don't know about you but it's hard for me to meet anyone at work as I work in a medical facility in the billing office,which is mostly women. I dont do the bar scene...whats left? the Internet. any ideas?
I agree with you DM. I've received lots of winks and maybe phone calls but it seems like boys night out only. Distance doesnt matter to me because I feel that can work if the right person comes along. As for men close to me, forget it. All they seem to do it talk and say nothing. I don't know about you but it's hard for me to meet anyone at work as I work in a medical facility in the billing office,which is mostly women. I dont do the bar scene...whats left? the Internet. any ideas?
I believe that the majority of people start the internet dating process with good intentions. After being solicited by foreign scam artists and people just looking to step out on the their mate many fall into the trap of believing it is just a game. Then they too become less then sincere in their efforts.
There are still many out here who see this as a vehicle to broaden the pool of potential suitors. It does, however, require sifting through false profiles and pictures that are either old or of a friend. That is the life that me must resign ourselves to lead or join the masses that don't care if they live in "The Matrix"
I believe that the majority of people start the internet dating process with good intentions. After being solicited by foreign scam artists and people just looking to step out on the their mate many fall into the trap of believing it is just a game. Then they too become less then sincere in their efforts.
There are still many out here who see this as a vehicle to broaden the pool of potential suitors. It does, however, require sifting through false profiles and pictures that are either old or of a friend. That is the life that me must resign ourselves to lead or join the masses that don't care if they live in "The Matrix"
I don't think most men on here want more than internet chat. I have had 52 winks of those 52 I replied to about 20 and have only met about 3....not really good numbers if you think about it. I have one man that likes to send short emails and call but has yet to meet or give me a number to call back....I'm ready to give up on internet dating because the name says it all...it is only a date online..lol
I don't think most men on here want more than internet chat. I have had 52 winks of those 52 I replied to about 20 and have only met about 3....not really good numbers if you think about it. I have one man that likes to send short emails and call but has yet to meet or give me a number to call back....I'm ready to give up on internet dating because the name says it all...it is only a date online..lol
cyupanqui, thank you for your post to my blog. I knew I wasnt alone. I even met someone in person that did the same thing so I think it has to do with character and integrity as well.
cyupanqui, thank you for your post to my blog. I knew I wasnt alone. I even met someone in person that did the same thing so I think it has to do with character and integrity as well.
Sadly, no one close to my location has ever expressed any interest in me through the 'net. And I was not going to travel half way across the planet after something that may or may not work--I'm not a wealthy person.
As I wrote in other posts, I think meeting people in "real life" is a lot better, unless you belong to one of the types everybody seems to want.
Sadly, no one close to my location has ever expressed any interest in me through the 'net. And I was not going to travel half way across the planet after something that may or may not work--I'm not a wealthy person.
As I wrote in other posts, I think meeting people in "real life" is a lot better, unless you belong to one of the types everybody seems to want.
